It’s easy to get caught up in focusing on what we think will make us happy – a better job, a relationship, more money, or our next achievement. What I find in working with individuals, however, is much different. While obtaining a goal may provide some a temporary “buzz,” individuals generally return to their baseline state of happiness. In other words, having external “things” doesn’t up one’s overall happiness the way we might think. In fact, I’ve spoken with many teens whose parents have provided them with all they might want, and yet they still are unhappy.
So what then can we do to improve our overall happiness?:
- Adopt an attitude of gratefulness; focus on what your are thankful for
- Find joy in every day; incorporate something you enjoy into your schedule, no matter how small
- Identify your top 5 core values, and make decisions that are congruent with your values
- Say “no” to energy drainers- recognize that saying “no” to some things can provide you with the energy to more fully say “yes” to the things you enjoy
- Give yourself permission to love yourself; have compassion for yourself and your imperfections- it leads to greater compassion for others